Adapting to Grief During Thanksgiving

I recently read an interesting article entitled “How to Survive Thanksgiving Day Grief.”  Authored by Chris Raymond and published by verywellhealth.com, this article gives excellent insight into celebrating a holiday while mourning a loved one and offers five tips to support your emotional well-being.

Permit Yourself to Say No.  Thanksgiving is a holiday steeped in tradition, but, if this year finds you feeling overwhelmed, take the time to determine how much responsibility you feel comfortable assuming.  As the author states, “remind yourself that it’s okay to say ‘no’ as you adjust to life after loss and that those who love you will understand.”

Let It Go.  Strive to let go of the perfection we tend to envision when we picture Thanksgiving, and “…give yourself a pass this Thanksgiving by accepting things as they are, even if they fall short of the Norman Rockwell image in your head.”

Take Control of Your Fear.  Many people are afraid to remember their loved ones during the holidays, fearing that the memories will be too overwhelming.  Instead, “empower yourself by incorporating his or her memory into your Thanksgiving plans.  For example, place a favorite photograph of your loved one and a lit candle in a quiet spot that signifies his or her presence in your hearts throughout the day.”

Start Fresh.  Traditions are wonderful, “but ask yourself if a particular tradition will really bring you joy this year or if you just feel pressure to do something because you’ve always done it this way and others expect it.”  From baking homemade pies to shopping on Black Friday, if it’s too much, consider establishing new traditions.

Know Your Limits.  Strive to determine your limits ahead of time.  Limit social activity accordingly and attend events that fit your energy and mood.  Your emotional well-being is of utmost importance at this time of year.

Serenity Funeral Home wishes you a peaceful and happy Thanksgiving.  We are located just off Riverside Dr. at 1316 S. 400 E., Ste. A5, St. George, (435) 986-9100.

Submitted by Larry L. Hansen, Owner/Licensed Funeral Director, Serenity Funeral Home of Southern Utah.